Some grapes and half an onion

Thinking about the difference between being nice and being kind.

That there is a difference and that it's significant.

Posing the question so there's at least a chance of arriving at an answer.

Not able to say at the moment what the difference is but willing to think about it, knowing it's important

Seeing one as a fruit and one as a vegetable.

Not really wanting to think about it anymore, giving up, putting the thought away, going on.

A person can't be in crisis all the time, it's simply not possible.